I am sleepless in Boston because I’m excited about giving two concerts of my original songs this week and also attending my 50th college reunion.
Because I’m sleepless in Boston, I’ve been making more mistakes. For example, last night when I was trying to clean up my phone, I accidentally deleted two apps: Threads (a Twitter-like site) and another one I’m hoping isn’t important.
Another thing about being sleepless in Boston is that it’s harder to tell what is and isn’t important.
Do any of my photos reflect that I’m sleepless in Boston?
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Whenever I’m sleepless in Boston, I remember the helpful book The Sleep Solution, and how my takeaway from that was “Don’t worry about it!”
Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “sleepless in Boston.”
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Seeing that Epik High video might keep me sleepless in Boston as I try to figure out how to get crowds like that at future concerts. Maybe my new song, which I just started writing, will help.
It’s all good that yesterday’s birthday was my fourth birthday since I went all in for this all good daily blog on January 1, 2013. It’s all good that all my good readers can read all about all those birthdays here, here, here, and here.
It’s all good that yesterday I thought and said, several times
This may be my best birthday ever!
It’s all good that I felt, thought, and said that sincerely yesterday, despite not all good things going as planned for my all-good birthday. For example, my all good vocal coach had to postpone our good plans to record me singing another all good audition song for the all good TV show, “The Voice.” Also, all good me was a good ten minutes late for my good appointment with an all good tax preparer. And, I got temporarily locked out of my all-good new office in Newton. But, it was all good.
It’s all good that I made this all good promise to myself, on the all good day I turned an all good 63 years old:
From now on, if things don’t go as planned, I will judge neither myself nor anybody else!
That’s going to make all good things better, don’t you think?
It’s all good that I took all these good photographs yesterday. Which all good photo do you think is the best?
It’s all good that I get to share all good things with all my good readers.
All good thanks to all good people who helped me celebrate my birthday yesterday, including my great son Aaron and my great boyfriend Michael. And all good gratitude to you — of course! — for reading all good things I share, here at the Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally.
For example, I never knew there were exactly 100 things I never knew about my own brain.
I never knew there was a brain user’s guide available for purchase, even though I used to write user’s guides in the 1970s.
I never knew they made peeps for dogs.
I never knew how to weld.
Before I started this blog, I never knew I could write about the coolest topics. I also never knew that writing about something would bring more of that into my life, almost immediately.
I never knew where I could find the coolest looks, before yesterday.
I never knew all the anagrams for the word “cake.”
I never knew it was okay to advertise with backwards letters, even though I had an advertising company in the 1990s.
I never knew people decorated cars like cakes.
I never knew cats liked baseball.
Before I met him, I never knew there was a cat that could be as omnipresent as Oscar.
I never knew my dentist would read my blog, every single day.
Before I get started on my usual ramblings about Whatever The Hell I Want To Write About Today, I’m noticing the number in my title.
Doesn’t 404 have a tinge of danger to it, dear readers? Unless I’m mistaken, I believe that “404” is a common way the internet tells us, “Somebody screwed up! And I’m not saying it’s me or you. However, I’m not taking responsibility for this, so WHO do YOU think is likely at fault?”
Let me check my numerical memory, there:
404
noun COMPUTING
1. an error message displayed by a browser indicating that an Internet address cannot be found.
Thank you, Google, for your support, for classifying “404” as a noun, and for having the guts to have a list of just one item.
Already, I feel easier than I did before I began writing this post. Yes indeed, blogging is my personal medicine.
Oh, and one more thing, before I really get this post started. Isn’t it amazing how the automatic, human distortion of mind reading can easily attach itself to anything, including the “thoughts” of the friggin’ internet?
Hmmm. Getting started today is more difficult than I expected.
Hey! I’m back on topic!
Yes, my dear denizens of the internet, today I would like to expound, ramble, riff, and otherwise randomly write about the opposite concepts of Difficult and Easy.
Want to come along? Let’s go!
Random Thoughts about
Difficult/Easy
My first thought about Difficult/Easy is that it represents a common cognitive distortion: Black and White (or All or Nothing) Thinking. Yes, fellow humans, we can easily classify things as All Bad or All Good, Perfect or Useless, All This or All That. However, most experiences, people, things, etc. are not in an either/or extreme. We live in a world of greys, where things shift and change, even if we naturally see things in absolutes.
Difficult and Easy are expressions of absolutes and extremes, aren’t they?
Let me take this opportunity to show you something in my office. In its first appearance in this blog (drum roll):
The Zero to 100 scale, on Ann’s whiteboard!!!
Wait. That’s too difficult to read and too difficult to decipher. Hold on, while I crop that photo:
Ah. That’s easier. So yes, that’s my all-or-nothing scale. It’s always there, on my whiteboard. While everything else you can see in that first photo is gone, that scale remains.
Why do I keep that there? Because it’s so handy, to have that Zero-to-100% scale, when people talk about all-or-nothing concepts, including:
Labeling themselves as worthless or any other negative extreme, losing sight of the positives.
Believing that some decision might be all good or all bad, and feeling paralyzed and afraid to make the wrong decision.
In general, seeing the OR’s in a situation instead of the AND’s.1
How do I use that scale, in my office? I’m very low-tech, people. When I hear an All-or-Nothing statement that isn’t helping somebody, I take this sophisticated instrument (of which I have two):
… and move my hand up and down that scale on my whiteboard, challenging the all-or-nothing thinking.
Here’s what I’m wondering right now:
Why didn’t I write about that 0-100 scale before? I mean, it’s been up on my white board since way before I started this blog, I use it quite frequently, and people seem to find it useful. So why did I wait?
I probably thought it would be too difficult to explain.
Okay, before I end this blog post, I want to check out my stash of photos on my iPhone, because I know I have at least one cool shot I want to share. So let’s see how difficult/easy it will be, to apply some photos to today’s topic.
Here’s another photo from my ride into work during Wednesday’s snowstorm (which I wrote about, here).
And, yes, I expected that drive to be difficult, but it was way down in the other direction, on the Difficult/Easy Scale.
Finally, here’s a recent photo I took at a local ice cream place — Rancatore’s Ice Cream and Yogurt — that I liked so much, I tweeted it yesterday:
The caption for the tweet?
Usually I have trouble finding straws in take-out places. Not here.
In other words, finding straws was in an unexpected place, on the Difficult/Easy scale.
Okay! Time to wrap up this post.
Thanks to you. Just you. That wasn’t so difficult, was it?
1 I’m not sure how I feel about the Ford Fusion car commercials — about OR’s and AND’s — which I’ve been seeing a lot lately, including:
Do I love or hate those commercials? Do I think they’re good or bad? Usually, somewhere in between, depending on my mood, my thoughts, and the day.
Coincidentally, when snow first appeared, two months ago, I was considering the Ford Fusion as my next car. Why? I had read that it would be easier to drive in the snow, compared to my current car. What does my mechanic think? He’s not so sure.
