Yesterday, in a Coping and Healing group, people talked about compliments. Several said they had trouble accepting compliments because they
- didn’t believe them,
- didn’t deserve them,
- weren’t used to them,
- felt conceited,
- felt embarrassed,
- associated them with past traumas, and
- were less comfortable with them than they were with familiar negative talk.
Compliments can’t hurt us! Let’s try to accept them with a simple “thank you.”
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Let’s see if there are any compliments in my other images for today.
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Compliments to the U.S. Congress for not sleeping and doing something hard: raising the debt ceiling and averting global fiscal disaster.
Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for compliments.
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Thanks to all who do their best to give and receive compliments, including YOU!
A simple thank you is just the ticket. It is important to let people know we appreciate what they say rather than muttering negating replies
My compliments to you, my friend.
That is good advice, to just say thank you if someone offers a compliment. (You are so good at giving good advice. 🙂)
I enjoyed your photos and particularly the one of the cats looking down at the human who didn’t land on her feet
Thanks for the compliments, Maureen!
I have been one of those uncomfortable with compliments my whole life and I don’t think I’m over it yet. And yet I have always been one who, for some reason, gets lots of compliments. My dear mother was also one wary of compliments, and made certain I knew that “pretty is as pretty does.” In a way, you could say I go out of my way to deserve the compliments I’ve been given, and therefore get more. It’s a vicious circle, I tell you. LOL!
Barbara, you made me laugh at the end. How wonderful!
I would like to compliment you on this great comment, Barbara, but I don’t want to make you uncomfortable.
I just got a COVID booster, and the pharmacist said he was shocked that I was in the “over 65” category. If I’d said I was in my 30s or 40s, he would have believed me, he said. I took it as a compliment and thanked him, though I said I also realized that at least half of my face was covered by a mask, so he didn’t get a good look at it. Now reading this, I think I could have stopped after the thank-you!
Thank you for this great comment, my young-looking friend.
I never doubt the sincerity of compliments but they’re hard for me to accept because I worry about letting people down. On the other hand positive feedback just makes me want to be better.
I hope you accept my compliments on another sincere and helpful comment. And don’t worry about letting people down. They go where they will.
I enjoy a compliment when I feel it is genuine and not just flattery, but generally, all positive talk is welcome! I’ll pay you a compliment, Ann, and it is from the heart. You lead with positivity, and I really love that about you. Have a wonderful weekend, my friend. ❤️
Thank you for the compliments, my lovely friend.
What an interesting post Ann! Worth a ponder or two as always 🙏
Thank you, my very thought friend.
Your photos always so well complement your blog text points, Ann.
That’s quite a compliment from you, my friend.
Beautiful peonies Ann! I accept compliments and don’t dissect ulterior motives.
Beautiful, Maria.
and don’t forget to give yourself one, once in a while –
Allow me to compliment you on your wonderful and always helpful thoughts, beth.