Monthly Archives: December 2017

Day 1806: Sense AND Sensibility

Yesterday, I had the sense and sensibility to walk near the seashore with Michael, to visit the Harvard Book Store, AND to see an excellent production of Jane Austen‘s Sense and Sensibility  with my sensible friend, Deb.

When I was a senior in college, I had the sense and sensibility to write my undergraduate thesis on Jane Austen.  The title of that thesis was Judgment and [a word I don’t have the sensibility to remember, but my sense is that it’s something like “Perception”] in the Novels of Jane Austen. 

“Sense'” AND “sensibility” are defined in this quote from Wikipedia’s description of Jane Austen’s  novel Sense and Sensibility.

“Sense” means good judgment or prudence, and “sensibility” means sensitivity or emotionality.

Today, I would venture to say that combining one’s sense and sensibility results in wise mind — the overlap of logic and emotion.   I now have the sense and sensibility to quote Marsha Linehan, the creator of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT):

Wise mind is that part of each person that can know and experience truth. It is where the person knows something to be true or valid. It is almost always quiet, It has a certain peace. It is where the person knows something in a centered way.

Do you see any sense and/or sensibility in my photos from yesterday?

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I have the sense and sensibility to include this music from the 1995 film version of Sense and Sensibility:

As usual, I have the sense and sensibility to end a post with thanks to all who helped me create it and to you — of course! — for bringing your sense and sensibility to my blog.

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Day 1805: Questionable Choices

As I look around, I see many people making questionable choices.

Is it a questionable choice for me to share my first photo from yesterday?

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I made some questionable choices yesterday, including using Gorilla Glue to reattach my lost-and-found necklace piece.  However, after questioning the internet, I made choices to effectively remove the excess glue from my fingers and from the repaired necklace.

Are any of my other photos from yesterday questionable choices?

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Last night, one of my unquestionable choices, Michael, showed me a short film from the NY Cat Film Festival about a man who has made choices some might find questionable. I hope you make the choice to watch this:

It’s not a questionable choice to thank Michael, Ian Christopher Goodman, Akamatsu the Cat, Harley the cat, Hallmark Cards, seaside locations,  the internet, and — of course! — you, for choosing to visit here, now.

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Day 1804: I can’t look

“I can’t look” is what I say to myself, every day, about the news.

I can look at other things, though, so we can look at my latest photos.

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I can’t look at that favorite necklace without regrets that a part of it fell off  this week when I wasn’t looking.

I can’t look outside because today is this season’s first snow day in Boston.

I can look at YouTube and find fun things like Tim Conway and Harvey Korman‘s Emmy Moments:

I can’t look at them without smiling.

I can’t look for comments on this post, because I haven’t published it yet. I’ll look for those later.

I can look for ways to express thanks to all who helped me create today’s blog and also to you, because you could look and did!

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Day 1803: Common Sense

This is the first appearance of “Common Sense” here at The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally, as I approach the fifth anniversary of this daily blog.

It’s about time for common sense here and elsewhere, don’t you think?

Here are some uncommon quotes about common sense:

Common sense is not so common.  — Voltaire

Common Sense is that which judges the things given to it by other senses.  — Leonardo Da Vinci

I read, I study, I examine, I listen, I think, and out of all that I try to form an idea into which I put as much common sense as I can. — Marquis de Lafayette

Society is always taken by surprise at any new example of common sense.  — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Common sense is the most fairly distributed thing in the world, for each one thinks he is so well-endowed with it that even those who are hardest to satisfy in all other matters are not in the habit of desiring more of it than they already have.  — René Descartes

Philosophy is common sense with big words.  — James Madison

Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age 18. — Albert Einstein

Everybody gets so much information all day long that they lose their common sense.  — Gertrude Stein

It is inaccurate to say that I hate everything. I am strongly in favor of common sense, common honesty, and common decency.  This makes me forever ineligible for public office.  — H. L. Mencken

Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.  — Clive James

There is nothing more uncommon than common sense. — Frank Lloyd Wright

Do you seen any common (or uncommon) sense in my photos from yesterday?

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Was it common sense for me to invite people in a therapy group last night to express what makes them cry and what makes them laugh?  I didn’t have the common sense to photograph more things on my list of what makes me laugh.

Here‘s “Common Sense” by John Prine:

Common sense dictates that I thank all who helped me create this “Common Sense” post and you — of course! — for all your common and uncommon sense.

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Day 1802: Beautiful/Ugly

Yesterday, beautiful people in a therapy group talked about feeling ugly.

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I suggested that people practice looking in a mirror and saying “I’m beautiful,” even when feeling ugly.   Especially when feeling ugly.

A few years ago,  I published the post Day 581: Ann’s Beauty Tips. In ugly times, I think it’s even more important to realize one’s own beauty.

Do you find any of my other photos from yesterday beautiful and/or ugly?

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Here’s ugly and beautiful music on YouTube:

No matter how ugly or beautiful you’re feeling, any comment you write will be beautiful to me.

Beautiful thanks to all who helped me create this Beautiful/Ugly post and — of course! — to beautiful you.

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Day 1801: What’s bothering us? What do we do about it?

What’s bothering us?

Well, I can’t speak for all of us, but what’s bothering me are the latest headlines from my news feed.

What do I do about it?

When something is bothering me, I do my best to share thoughts, feelings, and images.

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Those squiggles on my office whiteboard represent the ups and downs of moods and life, which can bother people.

This video of the Old Philosopher, Eddie Lawrence, helped what was bothering me, Bunky.

What’s bothering you?  What do you do about it?  How about leaving a comment?

Thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and to you — of course! —  no matter what you do about it.

 

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Day 1800: GUILT — Why?

Why is this post titled “GUILT– Why?”

Is today’s post — on the 1800th day of consecutive blogging here at The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally — an examination of why we human beings experience guilt?

Why would I attempt a post of such sweeping scope on a morning when I have only 15 minutes to create it before I need to get ready for work?

Here’s why “GUILT — Why?” is today’s title:

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Yesterday, in my office, somebody was trying to figure out why they were experiencing increased feelings of guilt.  The conclusion was that this person was not getting enough sleep and was eating more sweets and carbs.

Why would lack of sleep and a less healthy diet cause more guilt?

I have no guilt about

  1. not answering my own questions in this post and
  2. sharing my other photos from yesterday.

 

 

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Just a reminder … I can find a helpful video on YouTube by searching on my post’s title.

Why should you feel any guilt about leaving (or not leaving) a comment?

GRATITUDE (for all who helped me create this post and for you) — Why?

Just because.

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Day 1799: New and Wonderful

Yesterday, I saw a new and wonderful sign,

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a new and wonderful movie,

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and new (to me) and wonderful children’s books.

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Here are more new and wonderful photos from yesterday:

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I am sorry whenever I temporarily lose the ability to notice the quietly profound, amazing, new and wonderful things around me. When that happens, I take another look, and there they are.

Last night, I watched the new and wonderful   50th Anniversary celebration of the Carol Burnett Show. Here’s the wonderful Sorry! skit from The Carol Burnett Show.

If you watch that skit, you’ll see that Vicki Lawrence says a new and wonderful line at 12:49.  I assume that because of Carol’s reaction and because of her wonderful response: “That’s a new one, Mama.”

What’s new and wonderful in your world?

Thanks to all who helped me create today’s new post and — of course! — to you, on this new and wonderful day.

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Day 1798: Value

If you value blog posts about values, you might value this, this, and/or this.

If you value my photos, here’s the first one I took yesterday:

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If you value definitions, here’s one:

val·ue
ˈvalyo͞o
noun
1.  the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
“your support is of great value”
synonyms: worth, usefulness, advantage, benefit, gain, profit, good, help, merit, helpfulness, avail
2. a person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgment of what is important in life.
“they internalize their parents’ rules and values”
synonyms: principles, ethics, moral code, morals, standards, code of behavior
“society’s values are passed on to us as children”
verb
1. estimate the monetary worth of (something).
“his estate was valued at $45,000”
synonyms: evaluate, assess, estimate, appraise, price, put/set a price on
“his estate was valued at $345,000”
2. consider (someone or something) to be important or beneficial; have a high opinion of.
“she had come to value her privacy and independence”
synonyms: think highly of, have a high opinion of, hold in high regard, rate highly, esteem, set (great) store by, put stock in, appreciate, respect

 

Is there anything you particularly value about that definition?  I notice the very different values of the estates in those examples. I do not value people based on the size of their estates. Do you?

Now that the tax bill has passed both chambers of the U.S. Congress, it’s clear that their values are very different from mine.

Do you see value in my other photos from yesterday?

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I have sustainable love for this valuable song from Newsies, which cheered me up yesterday.

Finally, here’s a quote I value from that definition of value, above:

“your support is of great value”

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Day 1797: Victories

I’m reading about a “major victory” in the news this morning. I’m not as inspired by that as I am by small, unreported victories, like

  • an unexpected act of kindness,
  • a healing experience,
  • a good night’s sleep,
  • a small step towards a goal,
  • people helping people,
  • living a dream,
  • peace, or
  • any treasured moment.

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I was going to post a sing-along for “Ice Ice Baby”, but in a small victory, this song is suddenly and inexplicably playing on my laptop:

Shower the people you love with love.  Show them the way that you feel.  Things are gonna work out fine if you only will.

Thanks to all who contributed to the small victories in this post and to you — of course! — for all your victories.

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