Today, I’m thinking about some feedback I want to give that isn’t completely positive.
I’ve heard that the best way to deliver that kind of feedback is with a “sandwich” — start with something authentically positive, give the not so positive feedback, and then end with more positive feedback.
I don’t know why I have so much trouble giving less than totally positive feedback — maybe I’m afraid of hurting people’s feelings. Maybe it’s because I love positive feedback while also unfortunately focusing on any hint of negative feedback, and I assume that other people are the same way.
I’m thinking about feedback I’ve given other people about this: People are not as fragile as you fear. Also, you can’t expect people to read your mind — you need to give specific feedback to get what you want.
Do you have any feedback about the words and images in today’s blog?
Those polar bears don’t seem afraid to give and receive feedback.
Here’s what I find when I search for “feedback” on YouTube:
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Thanks to all who give and receive feedback, including YOU!
Let us all have it, Ann.
Thanks for your feedback, my friend.
Yikes!!!! Good luck!
Thank you!
I like what you shared today Anne! I wish you all the best when you have to give that feedback! <3
I like what you share, too, Carol anne!
On negative feedback, in my writer’s groups I always found it helpful to tell the writer that a passage didn’t work for me. Or that I got confused. Putting the negativity on the experience of possible readers, not necessarily on the writer’s intent. Steering the conversation to making it work better.
That works!
I’m also in a writers’ group and we’re all encouraged to use the sandwich method—although sometimes we call it “the Oreo”—of bracketing negative feedback with positive. The one thing I’ve found that seems to work best, and that I always appreciate, is when people say “I see potential here.” They’re being critical because they see something good and they want to help make it better.
You always make things better, Chris.
I sometimes had to do this with tricky teacher/parent conferences. we all have strengths and challenges and this is exactly how I put it, making sure that they know I really do like and see their child, even if they have a lot of challenges at any given time, and suggestions as to how we can all help to support and help their child in overcoming them –
Such helpful feedback, beth!
I am also skilled at picking out the slightest hint of negative feedback, unfortunately.
We are not alone, Debbie.