Almost two years ago (but who’s counting?) I wrote a post titled “Appropriate.” As I often tell members of my Coping and Healing groups, whenever we name an important topic in the room, the opposite is also implied. Therefore, anything I write about “Inappropriate” today would also include aspects of “Appropriate.”
I think it’s appropriate that I move on with this blog post.
The inspiration for today’s blog post is somebody saying inappropriate things to me yesterday. By inappropriate, I mean
- disrespectful,
- toxic,
- unprofessional,
- unpleasant,
- misdirected,
- insulting,
- condescending, and
- probably dishonest.
Is it inappropriate to consult an online dictionary to see if that definition includes any of the same words in my list above?
in·ap·pro·pri·ate
/ˌinəˈprōprēət/
adjective
not suitable or proper in the circumstances.
“there are penalties for inappropriate behavior”
synonyms: unsuitable, unfitting, ill-suited, unseemly, unbecoming, unprofessional, unfit, unbefitting, indecorous, improper, lacking in propriety, ungentlemanly, unladylike.
“Unprofessional” makes it to both lists of “inappropriate.” Almost all of the other “inappropriate” words are appropriate to my experience yesterday (although I wonder about the appropriateness of “ungentlemanly” or “unladylike”).
When somebody is inappropriate, I
- am shocked,
- get angry,
- feel at a loss for the right things to say,
- try to get away from the person as soon as possible, and
- enlist appropriate people to help me deal with the situation.
What do you do when somebody is inappropriate?
I’m not sure if any of my photos from yesterday are appropriate to today’s topic.
Personally, I think love is always appropriate.
Here’s “Inappropriate Behavior” by Lime Cordiale, performed live on the streets of Llanes, Spain.
Is it inappropriate that I also featured an Australian band in yesterday’s post? Is it inappropriate that I’m guessing how my readers from Australia are going to respond?
Gratitude is never inappropriate, so thanks to all who helped me create today’s “Inappropriate” post and — of course! — to you, my always appropriate readers.