“How People Change” is a topic of extreme interest to psychotherapists.
“How People Change” was also the topic that my therapy group — filled with people who are very interested in change — discussed yesterday morning.
Therefore, “How People Change” is the topic of today’s post.
I, a person, change every day. However, I do not change certain things — like including recent photos in my daily blog.
Because I’m not sure how WordPress is changing the size of that photograph on your current screen, here’s what I wrote about “How People Change” in yesterday’s group:
Everybody changes in different ways.
Flexibility is important!
Changes we choose are much easier to tolerate than changes we do not choose.
We deal with change a lot in this group because people come and go.
After the group, I changed the “angel card” in that description of change, just for the sake of change.
What do you think of that change, people?
Do you see evidence of how people change in my other photos from yesterday?
The reality is that I recited/sang these lyrics from the David Bowie song “Changes” in group yesterday.
Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes
(Turn and face the strange)
Ch-ch-changes
Don’t want to be a richer man
Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes
(Turn and face the strange)
Ch-ch-changes
Just gonna have to be a different man
Time may change me
But I can’t trace time
See and hear how David Bowie changed singing “Changes” as time changed him (here, here, and here on YouTube)
Some people have said, “The more things change, the more they stay the same.” Even though I change all the time, my gratitude — for all who help me create these posts and for you, my readers — stays the same!
It’s certainly true that the changes you choose are easier to tolerate than the ones you don’t.
Gotta love Bowie!
Gotta love you and your comments, Annabelle!
Sufferin’ succotash – so that’s what a snaggle tooth is!
Yikes! I got my cartoons mixed up! I see now that I was thinking of SnagglePUSS! 🙂 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4qFxTTi8q0
This demonstrates how one person changed her perceptions! Thanks, Maggie.
Bowie…a perfect rock model for change. Thanks for the videos.
A perfect comment. Thanks, as always.
One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned in life is that I can’t change other people–I can only change myself. And I also remember reading an essay by James Thurber about how often he left behind pennies and nickels whenever he bought something because he had so much trouble picking them up. He forgot the lesson that small change adds up.
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All right, have it your way, Chris! Your comments and Thurber’s cartoons have changed me.
Wow, I loved that last version of Changes!
Wow, I love all the changes Bowie gets out of “Changes.”
Love that snaggletoothed boy! I wish I could give him a home. It looks like he has furry paws. I am being as flexible and courageous today as I know how, even with weird things happening, like the express mail package never reaching the accountant, or misplacing my phone log with lots of needed stuff in it (I found a it today right where I thought it would be, but didn’t see it before. Life happens!
Life happens and is always changing, Sunny! <3
Your photos remind me that I should never be chicken about change, Ann. And thanks for sharing David Bowie, always.
This chick loves the changing thoughts you share, Mark.
I fear change. More specifically, paying for things with it. That’s why my pockets are always bulging full of silver. Feel free to *groan* at that.
Seriously though, love the photos. Snaggletooth there is my fave. 🙂
Love the change pun and the rest of your comment!
Change is always happening. Its important to accept this.
However, the essence of who you are Ann, along with David Bowie, never changes. 💛
My love for the essence of you, Val, never changes.
I missed, at first read, that the “chill, cool boy” with the snaggletooth was A CAT AND NOT AN ACTUAL BOY. I am feeling much better now about the changes in his life — the upbeat tone felt very concerning, when I thought it was a young man writing (for his teacher, perhaps??) some sort of “how I spent my summer vacation homeless, severely injured, and developing a disfigurement due to lack of adequate care.” WHEW!!!!!
WHEW! This is teaching me to make the change of showing the picture of the cat FIRST and THEN the description card. I’m going to make that change right now. Thank you!
“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”- Mahatma Gandhi
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Thanks for being the change we wish to see, Maria.
You can’t change my aversion to those green cookies.
I would never want to change you, Ruth.
Val is absolutely right. Our essence, in my view, does not change, but our responses and our behaviour does – hopefully, as we learn, throughout life.
I learn from you, from Val, and from so many others, Derrick!
Hmmmm. Or, how they don’t (change).
People are sewn into their skins for life and cannot alter any of the seams, at least not with their own hands. ‘
~ Franz Kafka, Letters to Felice (Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group, Jun 26, 2013)
I wouldn’t change a word of this comment.Thanks to Kafka and to you, David.
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Came by to wish you a happy St Patrick’s Day but your new post isn’t up yet. Hopefully, you are still asleep and dreaming of natural chicken farming, rabbits or snaggletooth cats. Happy wearing of the green.
It’s up now, Maureen! Happy St. Patrick’s Day to you. <3
I’m very flexible (thank goodness), and welcome changes. It would be nice if I were surrounded by more of the same. Love me some Bowie in the morning!!
It would be nice if I could respond to comments in a more timely fashion. However, I can’t change that I’m late seeing this lovely comment. Thank you for being flexible and welcoming!