When I tell people about my experiences in the hospital when I was young, they often say, “That must have been scary.”
That must have been scary, I agree. However, I don’t remember being scared. I was so focused on trying to understand what was going on, connecting with others, and surviving the frequent hospitalizations and surgeries for my heart condition that I must have been disconnected from the fear.
I appreciate people saying, “That must have been scary.” That demonstrates empathy and allows me to acknowledge what I’ve been through. I may wish that people had said “that must have been scary” to me back then, but that must have been scary for them to do.
This morning, I woke up thinking about the phrase “that must have been scary” and decided to reframe that to “that must have been necessary.” Somehow, that makes things less scary for me, here and now.
Do you see anything that must have been scary or necessary in my images for today?
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Learning something new, screenings, and breast exams: all scary AND necessary.
Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “that must have been scary.”
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If you think that must have been scary searching through the videos that popped up for me on YouTube, you are correct. However, it was necessary for me to finish this blog post.
Thanks to all who help me deal with things that must have been scary, including YOU.
